Be a Better Wife – Avoiding That Lull

Do you want to be a better wife so you can ensure a long lasting marriage? Has your husband hinted that you could perhaps work to be a better wife? Is your marriage becoming more complicated than you’d anticipated and you want to be a better wife and find a way of dealing with it all?

When we think of marriage, we’re usually enthralled with the idea of that perfect wedding and we simply gloss over what the marriage will actually be like. Dismissing all the unhappy marriages we see around us, we naively and blindly enter our marriage with the notion that it’ll be different from everyone else’s.

More often than not, however, couples face the same problems. So if you want to be a better wife and learn how to deal with everything that comes your way, read on.

Listening Capabilities

When was the last time you really sat with him and listened to what he had to say? Do you allow him to tell you about his day at work, or do you simply plow on with everything that you have to say about your day?

A relationship is about both of you and if you insist on making it all about you all the time, he can grow tired of it all.

Understanding What he Says

A friend of mine was recently dumped by her longtime boyfriend and she hadn’t a clue what she’d done wrong. Yet, on more than one occasion, I’d seen her boyfriend try to talk to her about a number of her actions that displeased him.

She heard him alright, but did she understand what he was telling her? Judging by her responses that either justified her actions or negated his displeasure, she didn’t understand him one bit.

Take in what he says, chew on it a while and consider carefully all that it means before you so carelessly spit it out and call it unworthy. Being able to so cavalierly turn him away may make you feel good at the time, but in the long run you’re simply putting your marriage at risk.

A Relationship With Sex

Whereas men once married so that they could finally have sex with the woman they loved, today they’re getting plenty of action prior to the wedding. But once those vows have been spoken, the sex seems to dwindle down with every passing week.

Don’t diminish the importance of sex in any romantic relationship. Not only is it important to him as a man, but the intimacy of it all will keep the bond between the two of you strong.

Get off His Back

And finally, if you really want to be a better wife, get off his back and give him a little breathing space. Take a moment to listen to how you talk to him, how you treat him. Perhaps even record yourself throughout a typical day.

You may very well be appalled to hear just how demeaning your tone is, how disrespectful your attitude is and simply how nasty you can be when you want to get things done your way.

Being a better wife can really be as simple as that.